Bringing Sexy Back...Your Decade in Review

You want to roll into 2020 and the next decade feeling fantastic? Good. Because I’m bringing sexy back (no, it’s not just the hammer pants and flannel shirt combo I’m currently wearing).

It's time to ditch the less sexy "stuff to start doing Jan. 1”…in favor of your very own decade in review silent disco. Yep, grab your headphones and queue “Last Dance” by Donna Summer.

You might be thinking, "Gahhhhd, Meghan. Can't I just enjoy my holidays without yet another thing to do?" Uh, nope. You didn't sign up for my community to have me ignore you. I want to help you make your next 10 years even better than your last with a “decade in review” exercise.

There's so much to be mined from the last 10 years(!) of your life. Some of it’s beautiful and wondrous…other parts feel like a giant midlife wedgie.

Uncelebrated wins
Hard-won lessons you’d be wise not to repeat #makebettermistakes
Negative emotional patterns that you're ready to ditch

First, here’s what NOT to do:

“Should” all over yourself
Flog yourself for past mistakes
Carry your old emotional baggage

Now…for the main event. Grab some solo time, a note pad, a fun pen, your headphones and favorite tunes, and some warm tea to complete the following simple but powerful prompts.

What have you done this past decade that you’re most proud of (e.g., obstacles overcome, results created, dreams pursued)?
1. Out of everything you listed, what’s most important? (Circle whatever jumps out to you.)
2. Why is that most important?
What wisdom have you learned this past decade?
1. What lessons were the biggest game-changers?
2. Why do these matter to you?
3. What do you really want to remember as you move into this brand new decade?
What’s most important to let go of and why?
1. What limiting beliefs or crappy old stories have you been carrying for the past ten years?
2. What resentments or anger are you ready to release?
3. What expectations (your own and those of others) no longer resonate for you?
4. Who do you need to forgive (psst: this may include yourself)?
5. Are there any expectations from family, loved ones, or even yourself that aren’t true to your heart?
Who do you want to be in the next 10 years (i.e., strengths, characteristics, qualities)?

So much has changed for me in the past 10 years. But in terms of the important stuff, 2009 Meghan had no idea how much more joyful, healthy, and fulfilled she’d be in 2019 (left is early 30s bar scene funzies in 2009; right is early 40s family vacation serenity in 2019). You likely know about my own shiftshow a few years ago and that this change didn’t happen automatically for me.

I want the same for you: more joy, more growth, and more time spent on what matters most to you. So schedule time to complete this exercise because the best way to predict the future is to create it.

Remember: You and your time on this planet matter. Here's some helpful wisdom:

“People overestimate what can be done in one year, and underestimate what can be done in ten.” - J.C.R. Licklider, psychologist and computer scientist