Often, when people start to explore the connections between their circumstances and their thoughts...and how both relate to their life outcomes, they tend to jump to shame-based conclusions or, conversely, sometimes misinterpret the aims of self-coaching as being rooted in victim-blaming. Since this is never the premise of what I teach, this episode is focused on what I’d tell my younger, 35-year-old self...with the hope, it can help you hold space for what you may be experiencing as you venture into the work of bullshifting.

As midlifers, one of our emerging strengths is to be able to have a greater perspective about what matters most. The research certainly reflects this. But it’s also nice to hear that the muck you’ve experienced wasn’t all for a show, either, right?

As we spin on this cycle, it can feel hard or impossible to get off – to veer into a different perspective, and acknowledge an evolving or shifting set of values. We tend to make meaning from past events in our lives, and then apply those outcomes to a current situation, thereby bringing our past to the future, with no possibility to create something new.

In this episode, I’m sharing 3 secrets to navigating midlife transitions. Most of you have probably heard about the “Happiness U-Curve”...and while many experts offer general “it gets better” advice, which it does (roughly around age 55, on average), I’m sharing 3 key considerations to help change your early midlife for the better.

As I’m recording this episode, the entire U.S. is in a period of major transition--a lifequake. Some might attribute it to our political system...will there be a peaceful transition from one president to the next? Others might attribute it to the COVID pandemic...will we be able to liberate ourselves from quarantine once the vaccines are deployed? But change can show up for us on smaller scales in our daily lives too. And if we don’t have a helpful context for understanding the frequency and types of change in our lives, it can all feel a bit much.

Welcome to Bullshift…the podcast for every person aged 35-55 who wonders, “Is this as good as life gets?”

Bullshift teaches you how to apply coaching psychology, early midlife insights, and the art and science of a meaningful life to transform this life phase into a period of creativity and growth.

We spend nearly half our adult lives in some type of transition. This show is about making all that time more satisfying.