Exiting Midlife's Struggle Bus
Are you on the struggle bus in some area of your life?
Maybe it’s your career—you just never seem to succeed the way you want to, and it seems like everyone else is passing you on the fast-track to success.
Maybe it's your body—you go through cycle after cycle of feeling empowered to be active one week and feeling a complete lack of acceptance for your beautiful body as you hole up with Netflix the next week.
Maybe it’s your love life—you keep picking the wrong partners, or it seems like no one wants to pick you at all, and you can’t figure out what to change to make it work.
Or maybe it’s your family—no matter how old you get, you keep drudging up childhood problems and don’t know how to move on in your life without that baggage.
Sometimes you’re making progress—you nail that job interview, you hit the gym 4 times a week, you enjoy a fun date that leads to a second date, you make it through a family gathering without fighting—but soon enough you’re right back where you are.
These kinds of “unsolvable” problems can start to seem like more than just problems. They can start to seem like they're just a part of our lives. Our story about the problem becomes part of who we are. We're constantly thinking about the problem, and never managing to solve it, and eventually we start to believe we never will. It becomes an IDENTITY: “I’m great at work but my love life's a hot mess” or “I’m from a dysfunctional family, so I need to avoid them.”
When you’ve reached that point of complete dissatisfaction...even resignation...
When you've accepted a problem you can’t solve as your fate in this life…
That's when it’s time to hire a coach. Past time, actually.
Because when you let your problem become who you are, you’re unable to solve it alone. You can’t even see where you’re stuck, because you just believe that all your thoughts are true.
If you’ve been trying to solve your problem for years, and you haven’t solved it–ain’t nothin' going to change this year or next without some outside support.
Henry Ford once said: “If I had asked people what they wanted, they would have said 'faster horses.” Because you don’t know what’s possible when you’re just basing your thoughts on your life so far. You won’t solve your problems unless you learn how to use your brain to think about them differently. Not by thinking all the thoughts you currently have now, but by learning to think new ones.
I get it—right now you can’t even imagine what those could be. That’s okay–you don’t have to. That’s my job. I’ll be Henry Ford. You just need to bring your brain.
This is what you'll be doing in my program, The Bullshift Boot Camp. You'll re-imagine your midlife, so you don’t have to feel resigned to dissatisfaction about the one you’re living.
How much longer do you want to feel this way? Because nothing in your life will change until you change first.
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