39: Using Your Purpose Filter When Life Contains Multitudes
Are you on the struggle bus in some area of your life?
Maybe it’s your career—you just never feel fulfilled the way you want to, or it seems like everyone else is passing you on the fast-track to success.
Maybe it's your body—you go through cycle after cycle of feeling motivated to move one week and feeling a complete lack of acceptance for your beautiful body as you hole up with Netflix the next week.
Maybe it’s your love life—you keep choosing the wrong partners, or it seems like no one lights you up, and you can’t figure out what’s next.
Maybe it’s your family—no matter how old you get, you keep drudging up childhood problems and don’t know how to move on in your life without that baggage.
Sometimes you’re making progress—you nail that job interview, you hit the gym 4 times a week, you enjoy a fun date that leads to a second date, you make it through a family gathering without fighting—but, soon enough, you’re right back to where you began.
And then, of course, there’s the pandemic.
These kinds of so-called “unsolvable” problems can start to seem like more than just problems. They can start to seem like they're just a part of our lives. Our story about the problem becomes part of who we are. We're constantly thinking about the problem, and never managing to solve it, and eventually we start to believe we never will. It becomes an IDENTITY: “I’m great at work but my love life's a hot mess” or “I’m from a dysfunctional family, so I need to avoid them.”
When you’ve reached that point of complete dissatisfaction...even resignation...
When you've accepted a problem you can’t solve as your fate in this life…
That's when it’s time to hire a coach. Past time, actually. But enough about me.
Because when you let your problem become who you are, you’re unable to solve it alone. You can’t even see where you’re stuck, because you just believe that all your thoughts are true.
If you’ve been trying to solve your problem for years, and you haven’t solved it–ain’t nothin' going to change this year or next without some outside support.
Henry Ford once said: “If I had asked people what they wanted, they would have said 'faster horses.” Because you don’t know what’s possible when you’re just basing your thoughts on your life so far. You won’t solve your problems unless you learn how to use your brain to think about them differently. Not by thinking all the thoughts you currently have now, but by learning to think new ones.
I get it—right now you can’t even imagine what those could be. That’s okay–you don’t have to. That’s my job. I’ll be Henry Ford. You just need to bring your brain.
But let’s say you’re not quite ready to hire me as your coach. Then you need to at least lean into your purpose...your growth and contribution. Let your pain point you to purpose.
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE
How to stop your problems from becoming who you are
Why you need to lean into your purpose, growth, and contribution
The benefits of hiring a coach to help you
How to transform your pain into your point of purpose
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In this episode, Meghan discusses the questions we tend to ask ourselves as we approach the new calendar year. She explains that these are the questions for which purpose is the answer. Who we are today is not the same as who we were yesterday and who we’ll be tomorrow. Yet, paradoxically, we are exactly the same person we were yesterday and will be tomorrow. This is one of a few key paradoxes of purpose that Meghan explores in this episode. Sit back, enjoy the holiday feels, and join Meghan as she gives us a preview of where we’re going with Bullshift in 2022!